What does sex have to do with honor and integrity?

Men are sexual creatures. We were created that way and we all seem to know that. But we frequently forget (or ignore) the fact that we were given a set of instructions which, if followed, would give us a pure sex life. Among those instructions are those that inform us that we are to be sexually pure for our brides. The apostle Paul suggested that single men get married if they cannot keep their sex drives under control. The Bible makes it very clear that sex within the marriage is a beautiful thing. However, we adulterate that marriage bed when we bring outside influences into it.

Prostitution, and even simple lusting (if there is such a thing as simple lusting) defile the marriage bed. Pornography use almost always leads to the intentional or unintentional introduction of other people into the marriage bed - that is, through the fantasies that are usually attached to porn use. Most frequent porn users find it basically impossible to exclude images they saw during their porn use while they are involved in intimate relations with their spouses.

Because they know that their brides would not approve, the average man would lie to his wife rather than tell her that he had paid for sex at the TA in some town, or that he was seriously lusting after some woman that passed him in her car. Once the ability to lie about sex becomes easy, the ability to lie about other things comes. When lying becomes easy, cheating in the marriage becomes easy, then cheating people around you in business dealings. When cheating has become an automatic action, stealing is just one small step away.

The point? Sexual immorality or infidelity is very frequently the first stone to crumble in the wall of honor and integrity that we should stand on. When one stone crumbles, others will become weaker and weaker until eventually, they will all be prone to failure.

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