What does sex have to do with honor and integrity?

Men are sexual creatures. We were created that way and we all seem to know that. But we frequently forget (or ignore) the fact that we were given a set of instructions which, if followed, would give us a pure sex life. Among those instructions are those that inform us that we are to be sexually pure for our brides. The apostle Paul suggested that single men get married if they cannot keep their sex drives under control. The Bible makes it very clear that sex within the marriage is a beautiful thing. However, we adulterate that marriage bed when we bring outside influences into it. (read more...)

Not THAT River!

If you were given instructions that were guaranteed to end the madness of the cyclic, uncontrollable behavior that characterizes your addiction, would you take advantage of them? Would you do what it takes to overcome your addiction, no matter the cost?

"Of course, I would!" most of you would say. But would you really do whatever it took, regardless of the embarrassment or humiliation that it might cause you to feel? I hope so, but if you are like I was for more than twenty years, you probably wouldn't. And then, you would wonder why the misery and anguish that characterizes your life never ends.

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I don't get this God and purity thing!

Isn't being good enough?

That's a good question. There are a lot of people who are "good," but who don't have any idea what it means to live a life of moral integrity and purity. They are good in that they do not steal from people. They try to treat others right. They are polite. They might even give to the annual Easter Seals fund raiser. But if you were to ask them their opinion about the sanctity of sex and its place in the relationship, they would be unable to offer a ready answer. Every man is sexual. Every man looks at women in lustful ways. Every man enjoys a peek at a porn magazine. Right? Wrong!

Moral integrity is something that is placed in us by our Creator. God created us to be sexual creatures. But He also created us to maintain control over our sexuality in a godly manner. For example, we are told that if we look on another person to lust after them, we have committed adultery in our hearts. We are also told that, as we are in our hearts, so are we. Put the two together and you get the truth that a person who lusts after women who pass by in their four-wheelers or who appear in porn magazines is an adulterer. And it's true whether the man is married or not. Perhaps he never sees himself as one who would go out with another woman behind his wife's back. But the inward result is similar. It is what is in the heart that makes the difference. Whether he realizes it or not, when he goes home to his wife, he takes home every fantasy that he has taken part in while he was gone.

That is where the God thing comes into play. God has a way of remolding our hearts into hearts that long to please Him and to be like Him. He has a way of reshaping the lives of those who come to Him for help into lives that honor Him and glorify Him daily. He loves the man who has a pure heart and He has a way of honoring that man with favor. Being "good" is okay. But there is nothing like being able to say that your sex life and your thought life is pure and honorable before God.

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